it’s always been an interesting observation of mine to analyze and investigate the root cause of different perspectives and causes of arguments and different opinions. i see a lot of disputes in everyday life and can see some fundamental reasons why these things happen. here in simple point form is the reasons i see why people argue.
1. people have a lot of pride and always want to be right. it’s a pure fact that everyone in their own right believes they are right and that their experiences and observations about life override another’s. everyone wants to feel important and smarter than the next person. it seems everyone has it figured out but in actuality if you take a look it from a broader scale, all of us don’t have it figured out at all. it’s a fundamental characteristic that everyone wants to feel special and important. although sometimes self absorbed it’s unequivocally a personal validation against societal expectations to be different and special.
2. people are more sensitive to when people impose on them then when they impose on others. it’s another human characteristic to take offence to things said about ones self than to realize what you may in fact be imposing on others. it’s often harder to appreciate what others do to you than to say what you do for others. this comes down to the simple human characteristic of selfishness. it’s true environmental conditions impose certain perspectives on life for each other and each others degree’s of courtesy and level of rudeness vary quite drastically. we were not all raised the same and in different environments and taught quite different fundamentals so this is unavoidable, people hold strong to their values and beliefs.
3. people interpret affection differently. people have different ways of showing affection. this because of their inner belief in things or pride have a hard time expressing themselves without being gushy or too sentimental. i feel that especially in guys, that expressing feelings can somewhat be a pride issue and showing weakness is always thought of as a bad trait. guys are normally expected to be masculine and emotionless in some regards but i feel completely differently on this respect. i feel if you are open with your feeling and willing to share them with others that you are more comfortable with who you are and less self conscious of what others think about you. it’s again the case that many people are judgmental to people to reinforce their own self validation that they are better than another person, or have it figured out better than the next.
4. it’s easier to pass judgement than to self analyze. to pass judgement on a person is quite easy. without all the facts an interpretation of the choices and decisions of another person can be quite subjective and only really skin deep. from human nature we instinctively react to certain situations because of training in society, it’s also unavoidable whether we like it or not.. we are programmed to think a certain way. turn the tables and put yourself in others situation and people synthesize happiness and different understandings of the situation and believe they are always making the right decision for themselves and that the are on the correct path. self analyzation can sometimes be the hardest to appreciate because it takes a lot of courage to say that you’ve made a wrong decision and own up to it. i feel though that accepting ones mistakes and trying to improve and be more open minded and less egotistical can be the biggest personal growth one can really make.
5. people take themselves too seriously. everyone has fundamental problems that they deal with and these issues get pushed to the top because it’s important to ourselves what is directly affecting our lives. but honestly i personally feel that some of these issues are mute and make very little overall impact at the end of the day. i’m easy going and usually try to let things slide and be open to others but at the same time i see how i bring up my own personal issues and it’s the only thing that matters to me at the time. to me i believe people will do their own thing and as long as i don’t interject and they don’t interject with my choices too drastically people can live quite symbiotic-ally with a mutual understanding. do onto others as what you expect others on you. if you raze somebody expect to be razed back.
at the end of the day everyone will rationalize with themselves that they are right, and logically in many obscure but not incorrect ways will show valid points. people can not experience the same experiences as others and because of these experiences, everyone forms their own beliefs and interpretations on life. it’s a culmination of life experiences that shape the fundamentals of who we are at the core.. life is not a matter of black and white… it’s never been about that, so we end up with this mix mash of slightly different opinions that clash.. sometimes dramatically and sometimes in a beautiful display of understanding. in fact i believe that at this very moment people are passing judgement on my posting maybe saying that this is too deep and crazy and how dare i say such things.. or even be angry at the fact that i’m bringing these points up.. or who i feel that i’m better than all that.. but in reality i’m not.. i’m just as susceptible to these points as anyone else.. but such as life.. i do feel there is value in bringing these issues and discussions out of the limelight.. people are apathetic and need to be more sympathetic and humble as well as show humility to understand each others positions in life and help society as a whole grow together. this is my rant.. comments are appreciated. 
